Sorry for the hiatus, folks, and a million thanks to Katie for lending her talents to the site in the meantime. If you haven’t read what she wrote a few days ago, go here to check it out before reading this. Truth be told, the hate comments got to me a little more than they… Continue reading Consensus
UPDATE: She responded! I won't bother showing them, they're petty. I do want to thank everyone for making this my most successfully viewed article on the blog, since its inception. It's really important that we shed light on harassing behavior. I'm not going to write any more about this subject, but I appreciate all of… Continue reading My hate comments (UPDATED)
Having been through the ringer in terms of therapeutic exposure, that exposure being both to therapies and to fellow patients, I feel that it’s important for me to share some of the darker sides of what I’ve seen with you all. What feels perfectly normal to you is like floating on cloud nine to myself… Continue reading My brush with the “lying disorder”
Honesty is a crucial tenet of recovery from mental illness. It’s important to be honest with those around you, and I’ll discuss precisely why. It’s perhaps more important to be honest with yourself, however. Self awareness is a saving grace, and is a prerequisite to healing from mental illness. I consider myself to be a… Continue reading Honesty: Therapeutic and Interpersonal
I never used to be someone who would block others out of my life. Whether it be over social media or some kind of in person shunning, I wasn’t quite capable of writing someone off. There was always room for someone to redeem themselves or to apologize. Now, I see blocking very differently. My therapist… Continue reading In Defense of Blocking
Gaslighting is a form of abuse, but it isn’t often seen that way. It’s a subtle art, and I’ve experienced it in droves, especially in a former relationship of mine. I’ve reviewed the typically abusive relationship I endured before, on this site. What of the more nuanced, manipulative, emotional one? If you’re looking for a… Continue reading This is Gaslighting
“Just because she likes the same bizarro crap you do, doesn’t mean she’s your soulmate.”- 500 Days of Summer I used to hate this quote. I thought that same-ness was what made two people compatible. The more the better, pile on the similarities. If myself and another person could melt into each other as seeming… Continue reading Mental illness isn’t a personality trait, and it definitely isn’t a relationship maker
Some of you may be familiar with the New York Times weekly column Modern Love. This is inspired by it. There is a phenomenon known in the circles of the severely mentally ill as Hospital Goggles. The term describes the tendency of inhabitants of mental hospitals and treatment centers to romanticize their fellow patients, sometimes doctors. You’ve seen it on Survivor or Big Brother, perhaps; in… Continue reading Modern Love: Hospital Goggles
I’ve dated a robust handful of people. Some relationships were ended by me, some weren’t. Some went out with a bang, others simply petered out or ended sweetly. Some were intense and romantic, some abusive, while others were more casual and non-committal. If there’s one thing I have learned since my first “relationship” in seventh… Continue reading My relationship goals? Mentally healthy.
Spoiler Alert: You don’t know him unless I want you to, so don’t try to find out who he is. But you almost certainly know people like him, though I wish you didn’t. Allow me to present to you a few of his facets. If you recognize this person in your life, at any point,… Continue reading When is a relationship abusive? Let me show you.