I feel as if, sometimes, the impression I give off is that I’m “better” or “recovered.” In a way, this is true. I have the best hold over myself that I ever have. I slip up on occasion, but my command of my illnesses is unmatched by any other period of my life. I’ve been… Continue reading “Recovery” and Chronic Mental Illnesses: PTSD and Addictions
I saw this in the comments section of a news article first (The New Yorker, so there’s gotta be something intellectual to it, right? Maybe?), so much credit to that thoughtful woman. I’ve been on a bit of a spree with talking about various nefarious actors I’ve encountered- I previously had wanted to steer clear,… Continue reading R. Kelly, Brett Kavanaugh, and the Familiar Cry of Abusers
Gaslighting is a form of abuse, but it isn’t often seen that way. It’s a subtle art, and I’ve experienced it in droves, especially in a former relationship of mine. I’ve reviewed the typically abusive relationship I endured before, on this site. What of the more nuanced, manipulative, emotional one? If you’re looking for a… Continue reading This is Gaslighting
“Just because she likes the same bizarro crap you do, doesn’t mean she’s your soulmate.”- 500 Days of Summer I used to hate this quote. I thought that same-ness was what made two people compatible. The more the better, pile on the similarities. If myself and another person could melt into each other as seeming… Continue reading Mental illness isn’t a personality trait, and it definitely isn’t a relationship maker
Let’s say your dad walked out on you as a child. You now have a robust abandonment complex (or schema, as I’ll introduce it). When people try to leave your life, you scratch and claw onto them in order to get them to stay. You go out of your way to cling onto people and… Continue reading Disconnection and Rejection: A Schema Introduction
Spoiler Alert: You don’t know him unless I want you to, so don’t try to find out who he is. But you almost certainly know people like him, though I wish you didn’t. Allow me to present to you a few of his facets. If you recognize this person in your life, at any point,… Continue reading When is a relationship abusive? Let me show you.