Have you ever thrown some food up while sick and been, later in life, unable to stomach that food? Every time you are near that food, you feel nauseous. One pre-middle school summer, I ate hundreds of raspberries from the bushes around my local pool, and upon throwing them up one day, I was henceforth… Continue reading Trauma, Associative Loss, and Harry Potter
Honesty is a crucial tenet of recovery from mental illness. It’s important to be honest with those around you, and I’ll discuss precisely why. It’s perhaps more important to be honest with yourself, however. Self awareness is a saving grace, and is a prerequisite to healing from mental illness. I consider myself to be a… Continue reading Honesty: Therapeutic and Interpersonal
I never used to be someone who would block others out of my life. Whether it be over social media or some kind of in person shunning, I wasn’t quite capable of writing someone off. There was always room for someone to redeem themselves or to apologize. Now, I see blocking very differently. My therapist… Continue reading In Defense of Blocking
Gaslighting is a form of abuse, but it isn’t often seen that way. It’s a subtle art, and I’ve experienced it in droves, especially in a former relationship of mine. I’ve reviewed the typically abusive relationship I endured before, on this site. What of the more nuanced, manipulative, emotional one? If you’re looking for a… Continue reading This is Gaslighting
“Just because she likes the same bizarro crap you do, doesn’t mean she’s your soulmate.”- 500 Days of Summer I used to hate this quote. I thought that same-ness was what made two people compatible. The more the better, pile on the similarities. If myself and another person could melt into each other as seeming… Continue reading Mental illness isn’t a personality trait, and it definitely isn’t a relationship maker
I’m a firm believer that everyone would benefit from seeing a therapist. No matter how rosy our lives may seem, there is always a higher level of self awareness that we can achieve, one that can be derived from an educated outside perspective. That being said, therapy isn’t cheap. So, whether or not to see… Continue reading 4 Signs That You Need Psychotherapy
Some of you may be familiar with the New York Times weekly column Modern Love. This is inspired by it. There is a phenomenon known in the circles of the severely mentally ill as Hospital Goggles. The term describes the tendency of inhabitants of mental hospitals and treatment centers to romanticize their fellow patients, sometimes doctors. You’ve seen it on Survivor or Big Brother, perhaps; in… Continue reading Modern Love: Hospital Goggles
I’ve dated a robust handful of people. Some relationships were ended by me, some weren’t. Some went out with a bang, others simply petered out or ended sweetly. Some were intense and romantic, some abusive, while others were more casual and non-committal. If there’s one thing I have learned since my first “relationship” in seventh… Continue reading My relationship goals? Mentally healthy.